COUNSELING

COUNSELLING AND ADVICES

Dear Uncle Jaykesh: my name is George and I have a female friend we are very close to each other & we always flirt with each other, we are in this relationship since one whole year ,few days before I said I love her & she is not believing I convinced her a lot for 2 days that I really love her ,she is saying that maybe I should not talk to her for awhile & I didn’t talked to her since last 3 days. I think she is scared that I will betray her in future, I m just not getting how to make her understand that I really love her, there is one more problem also I can talk with her in phone only.  BUT about one thing I m sure about her she doesn’t want to lose me. So please tell me what do I do now how do I make her understand that I really love her. George Dar es Salaam

Dear George: It seems that she knows you love her but she isn't ready for that relationship with you. The way to find out is to ask her. No reason for you to worry and wonder about this when you can find out so easily. Yes one more suggestion, do not be forceful but be tactful. That may solve a lot. Best of luck George

Dear Uncle Jaykesh: My name is Sameera. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. We have lived together for the past 10 months. We never fight about anything between each other except the occasional child rearing disagreement. He however cannot stand my family! He thinks they are inconsiderate to my needs, try to overstep their boundaries and disrespect to our relationship. While I agree with most things he feels I do not agree with his constant family bashing. I know they are not perfect but they are still my family and I love them. It causes fights because I get defensive and then he gets upset. He says he doesn't like them because he loves me and doesn’t like the way they treat me but shouldn't he be sensitive to the fact that I still love them and am trying to see the positive? Sameera … Dar es Salaam

Dear Sameera: Yes, of course you are right. He should be more sensitive. This type of problem is not easily resolved. Try telling him how you feel. If you already have then he isn't listening. That would mean it's time to see a counselor for professional advice. It would be well worth the dilemma you are in .yet again it is best resolved by the two of you, if not then seek professional advice..